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Dating tips on FIRST DATES….wercougars.com

January 6th, 2010

FIRST DATES

First dates aren’t normally the most relaxing of events. Still, they don’t need to create any more stress than already exists, either. Read on for seven rules to alleviate the most common first date location-

 

1. Dating Rule: First Dates Should Be Affordable

A first date is simply that – a primary interaction to get to know someone better. Leave the big bucks for later should things work out and try to keep the total expenses affordable for both parties, especially if you plan on going dutch.

2. Dating Rule: Find a Place With a Talkable Space

You’ll get shushed at the movies and have to yell in a crowded bar. Think about your first date location and whether or not you can comfortably talk in it without too much interruption. Getting to know someone new is the focus of a first date, which is next to impossible without conversation.

3. Dating Rule: Keep It Comfy

Comfy clothes, that is. A new outfit for a first date might be a lovely gesture, but what if the two of you decide to go for a walk after dinner and your new (and not broken in shoes) make the entire experience miserable? Opt for comfortable, flattering, dependable clothes that won’t pinch, sag, break, ride up, or otherwise leave you potentially fiddling all night.

4. Dating Rule: Make the First Date Location Easy to Find

If your chosen location is more than thirty minutes away or requires a map to find, it’s time to seek out another place to meet. If things go well on your first date you can always sweep your sweetie off to a unique and hard-to-find location another time.

5. Dating Rule: Ensure a Non-Alcohol Based First Date

There is nothing wrong with having a drink on a first date. Making it a requirement to drink on a first date however is a sure recipe for disaster. Avoid locations that have a drink minumum or situations where your date may feel pressured to imbibe.

6. Dating Rule: Allow for Time to Interact

Some great [link url+http://dating.about.com/od/dateideas/Date_Ideas.htm]date ideas[/link] involve so much activity that there is no time to interact one on one. Therefore, if you choose to attend a dinner theater or take a tennis lesson together, make sure you’ve allowed for some down time afterwards to chat.

7. Dating Rule: Make the Event Enjoyable

Don’t think that by taking your date out to do something you hate you’ll be winning brownie points. You won’t. Instead, make sure that whatever activity you share is enjoyable for the both of you.

dating tips~www.wercougars.com

December 21st, 2009

Most importantly, relax, be yourself and follow the safety tips detailed. In the end , you have to be true to yourself. That is all you can be and if they don’t like YOU…not to worry. Like the saying goes…”THERE ARE PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEAS”

Top Romantic LOVE Songs

December 21st, 2009

Top Romantic Songs……..GREAT IDEA FOR HOLIDAYS…make your special someone a “music mix”

The best love songs for singles and couples

Do you remember what song was playing when you had your first slow dance? What was on the car radio during that painful breakup? What song always makes you think of the one who got away? Of course you do. Music generates strong connections. 

Associating music with romantic moments and memories is a universal tendency. Have you ever noticed how many songs are about love and attraction? Love is one of the most powerful emotions, and it’s no surprise that it has inspired almost every songwriter since the birth of popular music.

When we here at TopDatingTips began compiling a list of the top 50 most romantic songs across all genres, we knew hundreds of great classics and lesser known gems undoubtedly would be left off the list. There are just too many to include! Regardless, this list – in no particular order – is a great starting place. If you haven’t heard any of these, get ready to start downloading. You’ll most likely discover at least one old favorite or a few new classics among the list that you’ll want to have at the ready for the next special romantic moment.

Happy listening!

 

“Wonderful Tonight” by Eric Clapton

An ode to your loved one and sung with heartfelt honesty by the guitar god himself, the beauty of this song is in its romantic simplicity: it’s a song about being proud to be with someone, a song of compliments and a song of love. You can’t do better than this for classic, romantic sentiment.

“God Only Knows” by The Beach Boys

The Beach Boys tended toward sun-drenched harmonies about surfing and cute girls, but “God Only Knows” from the band’s groundbreaking “Pet Sounds” album marked a huge shift. Grown up, heartfelt, and even spiritual, this song still chokes up listeners with its beauty.

“At Last” by Etta James

Hasn’t everyone at this point been to at least one wedding in which “At Last” was the bride and groom’s chosen song? I don’t point this out as disparagement. Rather, it’s the perfect example of how universally adored this song is. Any man can appreciate hearing that his girl considers him the prince and all others who came before him the frogs.

“Crazy in Love” by Beyonce

Love songs don’t always have to be sappy ballads. Just try to resist getting on the dance floor when Beyonce tells her man how crazy in love she is with him. Booty-shaking is as worthy a way as any to show your love.

“How Do I Live” by Trisha Yearwood

There was a time when every Hollywood movie needed a big, bombastic chart-topping song to accompany the climactic scene where the planet is saved, the boy gets the girl, or some other triumph is celebrated. Luckily for Trisha Yearwood, “How Do I Live Without You” is a great song that remains authentically romantic despite its inclusion in the “ConAir” soundtrack.

“When a Man Loves a Woman” by Percy Sledge

If you’ve never heard this song, stop everything and download it now. Play it, slow dance with your girl, and she’ll be in love. This works better than any potion or alcoholic beverage you can buy.

“Lovesong” by The Cure

“Lovesong” is proof that even the Goth kids at your school cared about love and romance. This sweet song’s chorus of “I will always love you” made it a staple on any mix tape. Lead singer Robert Smith might actually be as romantic as the song’s lyrics imply. He married his high school sweetheart in 1988 and they have been together ever since.

“Can’t Take My Eyes Off You” by Frankie Valli

The infomercials for Time-Life music compilations from the 50s and 60s always include this gem. “Can’t Take My Eyes off You” evokes nostalgic memories of date nights at malt shops and sock hops, but still resonates beyond its original context. This is one of the most romantic classics of all time.

“Sexual Healing” by Marvin Gaye

Original, sexy and very suave – there’s no mystery to where the evening is headed once this song is played. It’s likely that many babies have surely been born thanks in equal parts to cocktails and this sensual tune.

“I’d Die for You” by Bon Jovi

This heartfelt tune from Bon Jovi doesn’t dance around the topic of devotion with metaphors or figurative language; it goes straight to the heart of the matter. If someone sings this song to you, you’ll either be in love forever or need a restraining order quickly.

“You Light up My Life” by Debby Boone

This song definitely won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but we all tend to be saccharine sweet when we’re in love. Be warned, though: this song’s like an insulin shot.

“Wicked Game” by Chris Isaac

Chris Isaac’s cooing voice is half country yodeler-half torch singer in this sweeping song of the wicked, wicked things a woman can do to a man powerless to love. The steamy video made a lot more sense when you discovered that Helena Christensen and Isaac were actually dating at the time the song’s release. Gorgeous.

“Love Me Tender” by Elvis Presley

There’s little to say about Elvis that hasn’t been said before, but his velvety voice was never better used than in this ballad. Few songs age as well as this one – it sounds just as romantic and heartfelt as the day it was recorded.

“I Need Love” by LL Cool J

In the early years of rap, romance simply wasn’t on the radar. Rappers just didn’t really take time out from dissin’ sucker MCs to tell a girl they cared. LL Cool J took a break from touting his own lyrical skills to pen what many consider the first “rap ballad.” Nothing makes a girl’s heart swell like a tough guy showing his tender side.

“Fade Into You” by Mazzy Star

You may not recognize the title or the band’s name, but you’ve probably been struck by the haunting vocals. Singer Hope Sandoval’s voice is whispery and paper-thin – almost as if it’s about to give out before it soars again. It’s shiver-inducing and simply brilliant.

“No Ordinary Love” by Sade

Sade’s seductive voice immediately turns the mind to romance. The soft undertones of the melody, the lilting notes of the song and the beauty of its lyrics have made it a staple among music collections since its release. 

“Me and Mrs. Jones” by Billy Paul
 
With its velvety notes and deep luscious tones, “Me and Mrs. Jones” is made for smooching. If you find yourself with “a thing goin’ on” as the song says, this song will definitely be the soundtrack to your fling.

“Thank You” by Dido

Dido reminds us that no matter how crummy your day might be or what obstacle might cross your path, it’s always a little easier to swallow when you’re in love. It’s a great sentiment we can all relate to – that favorable byproduct of endorphins produced by romance. But beware, gentleman: playing the Eminem song “Stan” which samples Dido’s “Thank You” is not at all romantic, for obvious reasons. 

“I Will Always Love You” by Dolly Parton

First things first: We didn’t choose the Whitney Houston version. It’s fine in its own right, but we prefer Dolly’s little country voice on this song to Whitney’s booming power ballad. But both versions became popular because of the song’s lyrics. Who doesn’t want a former squeeze to love them forever?

“Amazed” by Lonestar

This lilting country tune can charm even the most urbane of city folk. Play it for your girl or boy and it just might become “your” song.

“True” by Spandau Ballet

Most people can’t hear “True” without thinking first of “Sixteen Candles,” one of the classic, teenage romance flicks of the 1980s. For all its 80s smarm and saxophone solos, “True” is still a great love song.

“Destiny” by Zero 7
Most techno and dance pop doesn’t quite express emotion, let alone love. “Destiny” is a swirling, romantic song – and even the electronic chirps and whirrs don’t diminish that.        

“I Want to Know What Love Is” by Foreigner

No one, and I mean no one, can resist the chorus to this song. C’mon. Admit that you sing along to this 80s classic when nobody’s around. How can you resist the swelling gospel choir’s background vocals and singer Lou Gramm’s shouts of “I want you to show me!” This song’s been known to make grown men weep like a baby.

“Nothing Compares 2 You” by Sinead O’Connor

Originally done by Prince, Sinead’s Irish warble made this one a surprise hit in the early 90s. If you weren’t moved by the song, the video – with the tight shot of O’Connor’s crying face — surely plucked at your emotions.

“My Heart Will Go On” by Celine Dion

Regardless of what you think of “Titanic” as a film, its theme song is a classic tale of romance. Though it may have become a bit overexposed, you can’t deny the rousing crescendo-building in piece, or the passion in Celine Dion’s delivery. Besides, what other song would you want playing while you stand, arms outstretched, at the front of an ocean liner?

“You Are the Sunshine of My Life” by Stevie Wonder

Some may find it corny (although undoubtedly less corny than “I Just Called to Say I Love You”), but Stevie can sing anything and make it beautiful. Besides, when you’re wearing the rose-colored glasses of love, your sweetheart probably does seem like the sunshine of your life. “I Was Made to Love Her” may be a better choice for the soul purists out there.

“Fix You” by Coldplay

Organs and acoustic guitar make this track atmospheric and ethereal. Normally a policy of “fixing” a partner isn’t one I’d endorse, but Chris Martin means it in the nicest way possible. See “Protection” by Massive Attack if you like this one.

“I Don’t Want to Miss a Thing” by Aerosmith

Indeed I don’t, and I would bet that neither do you, which is why this song is such a romantic masterpiece. Steven Tyler sings full throttle, but the sentiment is still tender and real. The opening few words say it all: “I could stay awake just to hear you breathing …”

“Lotta Love” by Neil Young

The Canadian hippie with the weirdest, and at the same time, coolest voice takes a break from harassing the “Southern Man” with this tender ballad. Check out Nicolette Larson’s version, which is a tad more 70s disco-funk (yes, there’s a disco cover of a Neil Young song!)

“The Look of Love” by Dusty Springfield

“The Look of Love” evokes images of mod, swinging London, but Dusty’s voice oozes sensuality and soul that reminded many of the sounds of 60s Detroit. This one is the perfect soundtrack for your next stay-at-home dinner for two.

“In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel

Peter Gabriel certainly owes Cameron Crowe a thank you for including this song in Crowe’s movie “Say Anything.” The scene in which underdog Lloyd Dobler hoists a boom box overhead blaring “In Your Eyes” has become an iconic moment in romantic cinema and turned the Gabriel song into a classic.

“My Funny Valentine” by Chet Baker

Love songs can tend toward soft jazz drivel, but Chet Baker’s haunting jazz standard “My Funny Valentine” reminds most people of a time when jazz meant “artsy” rather than MOR (middle of the road) or “adult contemporary.”

“Love Song” by Tesla

Even if you have a grudge against hair metal, this song will have you waving your lighter in the air in no time. Tesla may have sported the long hair and the acid-wash jeans, but they also had a way with melodies that put them beyond their contemporaries. This is definitely the power ballad you won’t be too embarrassed to admit you actually find romantic.

“Hey There Delilah” by Plain White T’s

A sweet and sincere song about long-distance love. Apparently the real Delilah never gave the writer the time of day, but knowing that tidbit of unrequited love just makes the song that much more romantic.

“Your Song” by Elton John

Writing a song for someone surely ranks among the most romantic acts on earth. When the song is actually good, the romantic quotient skyrockets. As much as you appreciated your 7th grade boyfriend’s 2-chord jam in your honor, Elton does it better.   

“Bleeding Love” by Leona Lewis

Honestly, the lyrics are pretty hard to decipher for this one. Is she singing about a love no one understands? Is this person someone who keeps hurting her yet she’s in love? It’s rather icky in places, with talk closing veins and bleeding love all over the place. Regardless, it’s a beautiful melody with beautiful vocals. Just beware of dedicating this to any potential sweethearts who may get the wrong idea.

“Unchained Melody” by Righteous Brothers

This song is almost obligatory in any list of love songs across the years. It’s a toss up whether this or “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling” is the better song, but if we’re talking romance, we’ll go with the uplifting harmonies of “Unchained.”

“You Were Always On My Mind” by Willie Nelson

You may not think “romance” when you think of Willie, but the man’s all heart. Underneath that scraggly beard and the bandana is a sensitive man indeed. If you’re looking for a more upbeat song, check out Willie’s “Maria (Shut Up and Kiss Me),” a song that will make you want to grab a beer and dance.

“Every Little Thing She Does is Magic” by the Police

Really? Everything? You don’t mind that your love never remembers to put the cap on the toothpaste? Or that when you walk under the umbrella it’s you that keeps on getting wet? Or that she snores really loudly? Now that’s romance!

“Hero” by Enrique Iglesias

Most men are probably wickedly jealous of Enrique’s good looks and his relationships with gorgeous women (tennis player Anna Kournikova, most famously). But having watched his father Julio make women swoon over the years, Enrique probably learned that having the guys hate you is greatly outweighed by the benefits of female attention.  

“Alison” by Elvis Costello

Although the song is another one of those “songs to an ex,” the true romance comes from one of the greatest lyrics ever to appear in a love song: “Oh Allison/My aim is true.” 

“Un-Break My Heart” by Toni Braxton

Music charts in the 80s and 90s were absolutely littered with romantic ballads, but many of them were the soulless kind that sounded manufactured on an assembly line. Toni Braxton’s voice prevents this one from becoming one of the Top 40 radio casualties and makes us believe in the power of love to mend a broken heart.

“Wonderwall” by Oasis

The lyrics are nonsense, and if you read any music press you’ll know the lead singer’s a lout, but despite all those things “Wonderwall” is a swoon-inducing love song. The strings and guitar combined with said lout’s soaring vocals make for an earnest, romantic song.

“Breathe” by Faith Hill

Faith Hill and husband Tim McGraw have sung a few romantic duets, but her solo hit made a huge impression on those who can appreciate a good love song. “Breathe” was a huge crossover hit and proved mainstream record buyers would accept a love song sung by a country singer.

“Protection” by Massive Attack, featuring Tracy Thorn

Not everyone may find a woman singing about protecting her man romantic, but you can’t argue with the sentiment in Tracy Thorn’s voice. Also check out “Missing” by Everything but the Girl, which is Tracy’s usual gig.

“Fallin’” by Alicia Keys

Soulful piano ballad that sounds both like a past era and of its time. Anyone who’s been involved in a rocky love affair can appreciate the sentiment in this song, particularly when you keep finding yourself falling back in love despite yourself.

“Let’s Do It (Let’s Fall In Love)” by Cole Porter

There are very few love songs most of us know from the 1920s, but Cole Porter’s song has stood the test of time with its witty lyricism and imagery. The most quoted lines are usually: “Birds do it/Bees do it/Even educated fleas do it/Let’s fall in love.” This is the song that will add a spring to your step when you first fall in love.

“Melt With You” by Modern English

Skinny, pale English new-wavers don’t make for your typical romance experts, but they always seem like big authorities on love when they open their mouths to sing, don’t they? Or at least this particular song has resonated with lovers since its release. The fact that it was used in a Burger King ad for a few years diminished its impact somewhat, but thankfully we can all now hear this song and not immediately think of flame-broiled Whoppers.

“You’re Still The One” by Shania Twain

So many songs are written about infatuation, initial attraction or that spark that exists in the early stages of a relationship – what about the rest of the relationship? That’s probably why so many record buyers were touched by “You’re Still the One.” There’s probably nothing more romantic than knowing that, despite your flaws, idiosyncrasies and other foibles, your sweetheart would still pick you all over again.

“Take My Breath Away” by Berlin

Berlin’s “Take My Breath Away” was made for slow-motion camera work, wind machines and billowing curtains. It fit perfectly with the love scenes between Kelly McGillis and Tom Cruise in “Top Gun,” and consequently became the soundtrack to thousands of 80s crushes.

dating tips~www.wercougars.com

December 21st, 2009

Don’t get too drunk. Have a few drinks so you are sociable and more laid back but do not drink in excess. Know your limits and stick to them!! This is how people often times get in trouble.

Dating Tips~www.wercougars.com

December 18th, 2009

Make sure your mobile phone is turned off. Taking calls and text messages appear rude, because it means your date has not got your full attention. If you have kids, either check your phone in the bathroom, or tell your date you want to check to see if you have any calls/messages from your children or sitter.

Tip of the DAY~ ~www.wercougars.com

December 15th, 2009

Be honest as lying will get you nowhere. You will be found out sooner rather than later.Honesty is always the best policy and the basis of all relationships.Lies build upon lies so put your best foot forward  ~be YOU, be real and be true!

REALITIES OF DATING AN OLDER WOMAN…

December 10th, 2009

Men call older women “cougars,” while women call younger men “boy toys.” It’s a cliché that’s become an absolute reality. And it’s not just famous celebrities like Demi Moore, Paula Abdul and Madonna who are snapping up younger men… It’s happening in a town near you.

 

What should a young man know about the realities of dating an older woman? Perhaps these eight things…

 

1) Offspring

 

At the risk of stating the obvious, the older a woman gets, the less likely her chances of conceiving. However, it’s worth restating because it’s a fact that’s easy to ignore at the beginning of a relationship. So if you definitely want kids in your future, you have to be realistic about your reduced chances and not brush this reality under the carpet. You also have to be realistic about your options: IVF treatment, adoption and surrogacy are all possibilities, but the process involved in any one of these can be lengthy, frustrating and expensive.

 

Similarly, there’s an increased chance that an older woman already has a family of her own, and a prospective partner has to be aware that she comes as part of a package. While for some the idea of such a ready-made family has its appeal, again, it’s wise to be realistic about how it will impact your life.

 

It will obviously restrict more spontaneous moments and bring you responsibilities you may not be used to. And much of the time, you could fall into the second position in her life. In itself, this doesn’t have to be a problem, but go into it with your eyes wide open, and make sure it’s what you want.

 

2) Sex

 

Here’s the good news: with women peaking sexually later in life and men peaking earlier, it could put you in perfect sync. However, expect some changes from your usual experiences. If you’re used to less-experienced younger women, be prepared to be told what she wants and how she wants it. You may not be in the driver’s seat, but that could turn out to be a good thing.

 

3) It’s Her Time

 

There’s a pretty strong chance that an older woman has a few relationships under her belt, and if she’s single again, she’s likely to have had her fill of men telling her what to do. If you’re the type of man who demands things to happen his way and his way only, you could be in for a tough ride. However, if you’re at the point in your life where you’d like more input from your better half and are craving a more collaborative lifestyle, then an older woman could be for you.

 

4) Social References

 

To her, a Partridge was a member of a bus-traveling musical family; to you, it’s an alternative to the Thanksgiving turkey. To you, Billy Ray Cyrus is Miley’s dad; to her, he’s the former owner of the world’s most famous mullet. While these differences can be fun – “When I was in my first job, you were in third grade!” – people use the experiences and references from their past to express themselves in the now, and if you’re just not getting it, it can be frustrating for both of you.

 

5) Cash

 

While, of course, many women are completely accomplished professionally, an older woman who’s been concentrating on, say, raising a family instead of a career is unlikely to have a solid source of income. If you’re ready for the financial commitment along with the emotional one, this shouldn’t be a problem, but again – be realistic about your future, what it holds and your responsibilities.

 

6) Health

 

Again at the risk of stating the obvious, the older a person gets, the greater her chance of falling ill. With any hope, you’re the nurturing kind and this won’t be an issue with the woman you love, but it’s important to understand your role in this situation. Also, bear in mind that if your older partner is somewhere between 45 and 55, she may go through menopause, which can hit some – but not all – women hard, the extreme fluctuations in hormone levels bringing on depression, anxiety, mood swings and memory problems, among other symptoms.

 

7) A Fling

 

Bear in mind that not every older woman is dying to get back into the dating game again, and instead she may just be looking for a fling. That’s where a handsome, younger man fits into her life, so if you’re looking for more, you should maybe look elsewhere. However, if you’re wanting something more casual, of course this could work for you, too. Either way, make sure you establish what you’re looking for before you get involved.

 

8) She’s Hip to your Tricks

 

Again, if a woman’s had some serious dating and relationship experience, she’s going to know all your tricks. She’s heard all the lines, knows all the moves and can unconsciously gauge the dynamic. In other words, you won’t be able to get away with some of the things a more naïve partner would take for granted. If your intentions are good, however, this only works in your favor, as she’ll read you as the good-intentioned person you are.

Tip of the DAY ~ WERCOUGARS.COM

December 10th, 2009

Try to establish a common interest early on, so that you can both talk with equal enthusiasm. Do your homework and make sure you are aware of the others interests from their profile.

5 ways to make your man smile

December 6th, 2009

5 EASY WAYS TO MAKE MEN….SMILE

 

1) Touch his arm. There are a lot of ways to subtly let a guy know you’re into him, like maintaining eye contact, playing with your hair and smiling a lot. But the only one that sends shivers down my spine is when a girl touches my arm during conversation. It always surprises me and it’s always great.

2) Send him a random text message in the middle of the day. OK, this might not be free depending on your cell phone plan, but it’s still a great value. Nothing breaks the monotony of a long workday like a flirty note from someone special, and unless his job is super-intense he’ll have plenty of time to daydream about you.

3) Ask him a question about something he knows a lot about. Newsflash: Guys like to show off for you. So if your dude could use an ego boost there’s nothing like letting him feel like an expert. Ask him about fishing, the 1983 Chicago White Sox or the mating habits of the Guyanese woodfinch—whatever he’s into. Just remember to nod a lot and look really interested.

4) Give him a very specific compliment. Telling a guy he’s funny, handsome or smart is always appreciated, but the really meaningful compliments are the ones that reveal how well you know him. Something like “I love the way your face scrunches up when you’re doing the crossword puzzle” or “You have the sexiest calves I’ve ever seen.”

5) Send him the diary entry you wrote after your first date (or write one now). One of the best things about having a girlfriend is reminiscing about what you thought about each other in the beginning of your relationship. Reliving all of the uncertainty and anxiety is strangely exhilarating. I can’t think of a better anniversary present than a sanctioned peek into the diary of someone I care about